Commitment is not a frightening word, at least not if he is sincere about you. If you want to discover the indicators that he desires a serious relationship with you, keep reading. (Relationship)
Guys give all kinds of mixed signals. One minute he can’t keep his hands off you. Next, he needs space. Honestly, how can you know the signs he wants a serious relationship with you?!
Sometimes, a guy may confuse you, leading you to believe that he wants a relationship with you when really, he simply wants something that’s no-strings-attached.
This feeling sucks, we know, which is why you need to see the red flags before you fall head-over-heels for him. You should try to be honest with yourself if you see red flags early on that indicate that he is not truly interested in going further with you.
There are many signs that can be a good giveaway that a guy is indeed serious about you, but these signs are foolproof ways to know for sure if he wants to be exclusive with you or not.
1. He tells you about his goals
A guy who is serious about you will tell you about his life goals and his dreams. This is his way of letting you know what he wants to achieve in life, and of seeing if you are both going down a similar life path. If he’s not, he won’t even bother sharing his life goals with you.
The reason he does this is to give you a sense of what he envisions in his future and what he’s deeply driven about.
But if you ask about his goals and he repeatedly shuts himself off, diverts the topic, or just skims the idea without going into details, he’s not that serious about you, at least not yet.
2. He introduces you to friends and family
Mentioning you or introducing you to his family and friends is one of the best indicators that he wants to be exclusive with you.
When a guy is not serious about someone, he will not take the time to integrate them into his world. If anything, this is one of the obvious signs he wants a serious relationship with you.
Guys don’t just let anyone into their life and their circle, so if he introduces you to his loved ones, you should feel special! Nothing makes it more clear whether or not he wants something serious than him telling his family and friends about you, and what you mean to him.
3. He expresses his feelings freely
One of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you is when he shows you his vulnerable and honest side. Most men don’t like showing this side of them to just anyone as it shows weakness and flaws in their perspective. So if he does express his feelings to you, he’s serious about you.
When he gets to know you and his mushy side starts to show, then you are definitely heading down the path of commitment. It takes a lot for a guy to be emotional, and it is a true sign of trust when he shows you his emotional side.
4. He includes you in his future
Another great sign that he wants a relationship with you is if he includes you in his future plans. If he begins to say ‘we’ this or ‘we’ that, then he wants to get serious with you. A guy who does not see himself with someone will not visualize himself with the person he is just dating to pass the time.
He obviously cares about you enough to include you in his plans, whether short-term or long-term ones. He’ll include you in his business plans or life goals; he’ll include you in family gatherings, and more.
Guys can be quite scared of commitment when it isn’t the right girl, so this is an important indicator of whether he’s serious.
5. He spends a lot of time with you
The way he makes time for you is one of the important signs he wants a serious relationship with you. If he enjoys your company and digs your vibe, then he will always make time for you. Even if it is just to see your face for a second during a video chat in the middle of the day, that is still making time for you.
6. He doesn’t play games
If a guy is serious about a future with you, then he will not play games. You know, those silly little games like ignoring your calls/texts, leading you on, saying one thing then doing another, and so on.
He won’t even bother confusing you with all these mind games and mixed signals if he’s serious about you, as he knows it’ll mess his chances entirely of winning your heart. If you continuously find yourself questioning his intentions and where the two of you stand, then walk away.
Again, guys are straightforward and logical, so he will not waste time playing games with someone he sees himself with.
7. He stops seeing other people
Really, you should not have to second guess if he is serious about you if he stops seeing other people. He is so enthralled with you that you are enough and he does not need to look for anyone else. If you’re the only person he cares about seeing because you make him happy and nobody else can take your place, that’s a pretty obvious sign right there.
If he does not want to be exclusive with you, then he will make it clear that he wants to continue to test the waters with other people. He’ll have a backup in case things don’t work out with you if he’s not serious about you.
8. He tells you that he wants to settle down with you
Finally, there is no surer sign of whether or not he wants to commit to you than him telling you that he wants to be with you, and you alone. All doubts, questions, and worries will cease as soon as those words leave his mouth.
Again, guys are pretty scared of commitment so the fact that he says he wants to settle down is one of the concrete signs he wants a serious relationship with you. This means he doesn’t see himself with anybody else other than you!
9. He doesn’t run away when you mention labels
If it isn’t apparent by now, guys don’t like the mention of labels and commitment. But if he doesn’t run away whenever you mention it or when it comes up, he’s not afraid of committing himself to you.
This is because he really wants to be with you, and he’d be more than happy to put a label on your relationship given a chance. But if a guy isn’t serious about you, he’ll avoid that topic entirely and change the subject abruptly.
10. His actions match his words
When he says something sweet and romantic to you, he doesn’t just leave it at that. When a guy is serious about you, he’ll match his actions with his words. So he’ll do his best not to disappoint you or let you down when he makes a promise. He won’t flake and will live up to the promise because you matter to him.